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(Note: Today's buzz is brought to you by CMAngela, who offers an alternative look at gratitude as we lead up to Valentine's Day. Sometimes, you've just gotta be grateful for *not* being in a relationship. Read on...)

One of the best things about getting together with your girlfriends is that they can almost always help you find the bright spot, the silver lining, and the humor of any situation. The iVillage community works the same way, as is evident by the conversations on the Surviving Divorce & Separation message board week in and week out. I loved the discussion they had recently about the three best things about being divorced or separated. Topping almost everyone's list is -- divorcing the in-laws along with the ex-husband! Here are some of my other favorites:

 

butterfli_beauty is glad to be rid of her ex-and his fantasy football craziness!

musiclover12 Is happy to scratch his errands off her to-do list!

tbzmom2008 has reconnected with the people who really care for her, and love her

camult has one of my favorites -- she's regained the ability to laugh out loud -- and who doesn't need more of that in our lives?

hopeful_mom_of_4 loves not having to pick up his empty beer bottles -- yes, empty beer bottles -- from the counter in the morning.

Even if you're not dealing with divorce or separation, sometimes we all need to stop and list our top three things, so what are yours? What three things are you happy about in your life right now?

I honestly don't understand it!! He must think I am a moron. I get a text message from my ex last night regarding our son.
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlsmartdivor&msg=20095.1

I have been dating this guy for 6 months now. Whenever he has work or family problems he ignores my txt messages and my phone calls. If he actually picks up on or txts me back he is cold with me.
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlhtbadly&msg=21.1

Text Dumping
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlguytalk&msg=27154.1
Last week my boyfriend of six months dumped me, by text!

It's been said that on the internet, nobody knows you're a dog, but this little joke may hit a little too close to home for those taking a stab at Online Dating and looking for a little truth in advertising, so to speak. iVillager ciecherella asks, "Honestly, is it too much to ask that a guy posts at least one accurate photo of himself?" Apparently it is, ciecherella, because you're not alone in this lament. With outdated pictures, you may fall for the tall, dark and handsome ... of ten years ago. And then there are those who don't bother to put up a photo at all. What's a girl to do? Have you experienced the online dating photo bait and switch? And how do you hide your surprise (or disappointment) when you finally meet your date? Or maybe you've succumbed to the temptation of using an old photo you love ... or a little photoshop magic? Go on, you can tell me ... it'll just be between us.

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You know a thread is going to be good when it begins, “I just have to rant a bit.”

And rant they do – about the extremely rant-worthy topic of women “starving to be thin.” The latest epidemic of skeletal celebs has women starving themselves in imitation, and, most disturbingly, has teens and preteens hating their bodies. We’ve heard it again and again – women, and even (increasingly) little girls, feeling like they have to be Nicole Ritchie-thin (see also: the gruesome cover of this week’s In Touch), which is in no way healthy. (Sorry, Nicole.) The more celebs get crazy-skinny, the harder it will be to figure out “what normal means” – for us and for young girls.

So cl-shywon starts us off: “I have two colleagues/friends who are on this near-starvation diet at the moment, and it's really getting to me. It's really just the one "friend" because she's doing it to lose THREE pounds. THREE!!! She's admitted it's not about health, it's about the number on the scale…. I guess I'm just frustrated at all the pressure there is to be that "right" size or weight.”