Outrage or Sympathy? No Charges for Mother in Toddler's Car Death

Last week, prosecutors said that a southwest Ohio school administrator won't face charges over her 2-year-old daughter's death in a sweltering car.

Authorities said Brenda Nesselroad-Slaby left her daughter, Cecilia, strapped into a car seat in her SUV for about eight hours while she went into work on Aug. 23, a day when temperatures reached 100 degrees.

Leaving the child in the car was "a substantial lapse of due care" but did not meet the definition of reckless conduct necessary for prosecution, said Clermont County Prosecutor Don White.

The news prompted angry posts on iVillage's message boards. Some expressed outrage at the fact that the Nesselroad-Slaby escaped prosecution, especially in light of reports that that she had left her daughter in the car unattended on previous occasions. Others, like member britstarlite32205, were left asking questions:

"It boggles my mind that this woman was able to get away with such a horrendous crime against her child. Where is the justice?"

Member rtmom07 points out that a police officer was recently charged with animal cruelty after the police dog he left in his car on a 109-degree day died. She, too, has questions:

"Now this guy is getting charged with animal cruelty for letting his dog die in the car. That is horrible enough, but no punishment for letting your own child die of the heat in your own car? I simply cannot understand the thinking!! I like dogs, but shouldn't a child's life be at least as important?"

Many can't comprehend how any mother could forget her child, not just for a few minutes, but for an entire day. Was this negligence? Member ddnlj thinks so: "'Forget'" doesn't cut it when it comes to a child. I'll bet these same people leave the house remembering their cellphone, briefcase and laptop... If they are that wrapped up in their work that they forget their parenting responsibilities then they need a new, less stressful job."

The AP identified more than 220 cases in which the caregiver admitted leaving the child behind. More than three-quarters of those people said they simply forgot.

The same day as Cecilia's death, a 7-month-old infant died in a parked car near the Washington University School of Medicine in St. Louis, where the child's father is a research analyst, authorities said.
Prosecutors there have not said if they will file charges.

Last weekend, an Oregon man was charged with child neglect, accused of leaving his 2-year-old daughter in a car in 95-degree heat in the parking lot of a Nevada brothel. The toddler was treated for dehydration and released to the Nevada Division of Child and Family Services.

For more information on hyperthermia deaths of children in vehicles, including statistics and safety recommendations, see or download a fact sheet at Golden Gate Weather Services.

Tell us what you think. Do you agree with the decision not to file criminal charges against Nesselroad-Slaby?

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Ashley said:

I think she should be left in a hot car to die slowly.

CG said:

I feel so bad for the woman. Can you imagine losing your child and knowing that you were the only one responsible for it. She will live with the guilt until the day she dies. That is sentence enough in my opinion.

Katrina said:

She should face prosecution. That is child endagerment and abuse. In my opinion, she commited murder. It may not have been intentional or premeditated, but she killed her child. Maybe 15-20 in a maximum security prison will help her remember her responsibilities as a parent. Who forgets they left their kid in a car ALL day? Her priorities were warped.

Vicky said:

Not saying she should or shouldn't be charged... but I do know that the "state" punishing her would be nothing compared to the horror she must live with every day now. Can you imagine being a mother and knowing that you killed your child, and carrying that around with you the rest of your life? Whether she is in jail or not, she will have to live with the knowledge of what she did.

Shawna said:

She didn't "forget" that the child was in the car. She was either deliberately trying to kill her, or hoping someone else would see her and take her. Why else would a mother do that? And I remember I freaked, sobbed and called the police within 5 seconds when I accidentally locked my son in my car 2 years ago. The whole 2 minutes it took for them to get there, I was glued to the window, trying to console my son.

So how can a mother literally leave her child in a car for 8 HOURS??!! Absolutely disgusting, if you ask me. DISGUSTING.

Stephanie said:

Our lives are so busy; juggling a career, children, cell phones (I'm always seeing moms walking around with these glued to their ears completely unaware of their surroundings), cooking, cleaning. laundry, being a wife, and countless other daily activities that consume our minds (I always have at least 5 different thoughts going on at once). With all of these daily activities jumbled around in your mind, it would be easy to forget the one that is quite and brings you little frustration.
This is something she will never forgive herself for and time she can never get back with a loved one, but is a calling to all of us to slow down and focus on what is really important - our family.
I'm hoping that someone will do something to allow us to put the car seats in the front seat (increase safety, disable airbags in passenger seat), so this will never occur again. Since the government mandated that car seats go in the back seat these deaths have started. 26 children have died so far this year alone.

Lisa said:

I agree wth the die-slowly-in-a-hot-car punishment, for the girl's mother and the dog's owner. These people are idiots.

Mandi said:

I'm left wondering if this is a new form of child abuse??? The cases of this are on the rise! The less they prosecute the more cases there are. Is this a new way for abusive parents to rid themselves of their child without consequences?

Anne said:

I just think this is a sad, sad tragedy. But it NEVER should have happened. Especially because she had left the child unattended before! I like one of the recommendations on that fact sheet--place your purse in the back seat as a reminder that a child is in the car. But it's so sad that people are more likely to look for a purse/batg than a child!

Mike said:

Who thinks this woman is suffering?! You're joking, right? Suffering is cooking to death in a hot car. This woman will go on to live a life full of doughnut munching and whatever else it is she does, while her boiled child lies in the ground after having slowly cooked to death in a hot car. The people who say she has suffered enough already are probably well meaning but just don't get it. There's one place in America where a two-year-old's life means nothing, and that's in Clermont County, Ohio. Somebody needs to do the right thing and bring some kind of charges against this woman. People make mistakes, and they get punished for it, not let off the hook. Let's get real.

I'm really glad Brenda Slaby isn't my mom, aren't you????

Rachel said:

Some of you are correct in saying this is a tragedy. However, I believe you are wrong in saying that this woman will suffer knowing that she caused the death of her child. How can anyone "forget" their child is in the car for the entire work day. Even while I am at work daily, I am thinking of my children and what we can do when I get home. It is pretty sad that with today's hectic schedules we just look at something like this as an "oops, guess I shouldn't have done that" I find it absolutely ridicuolus that she will not face any charges. Whether this was an accident or not is not for me to judge. However, there are consequences for every action that we must face. How is it that she does not have to face them for this crime?

MissR said:

I'm with you there, Mike. I'm glad she's not MY mom. I think she should face charges, for child neglect at the very least. I'm just saddened and outraged about the whole thing, I know she will suffer for a long time, but think of what that poor child went through.

Rainy said:

To: Stephanie
Car seats in the front? What does that have to do with this lady who 'forgot' her daughter was left in the car and died? The problem with America is that we like to think that certain people in our society are better than others and that's crap. When you commit a crime, you should be doing the time. This little girl is dead. If somebody dies because of a mistake or on purpose, there is no sympathy, who cares if there is no previous criminal record, everybody should pay for their crimes. It's not right that some people get off and some don't. That's why people don't trust the justice system.

sdg0225 said:

Guilt - ugg - I don't feel sorry for her at all - I feel sorry for her family. How guilty can someone actually feel when they do something SO... - gosh - I don't understand HOW she can "forget". I think about my children almost every minute of the day.

Joy said:

School administrator or teacher, that does not surprise me. They don't set good examples for our children. I'm glad my children are grown. The maturity level of the people teaching or working in the schools today is sad.
No regard for how they affect children's lives. I'm not saying all of them, but something has happened to the system. We do not have quality in our schools anymore. And these are the leaders of tomorrow???

Wildpuppy57 said:

Words cannot express the anger and outrage that I feel about this story!!

How do you 'forget' and leave a child in a car for ANY length of time?
What do the Clermont Co. officials consider 'reckless conduct neccessary for prosecution'? The officials need a reality check at the very least!


This is absolutely reprehensible - I have three (grown now) children: a son and younger twin daughters - and when they were babies and toddlers I NEVER, EVER, EVER leave them in any vehicle alone, much less 'forget' that they were there!


Too pathetic...She is a candidate for mandatory sterilization AND life in prison with the walls of her cell covered with the pictures of her child dead in that car.


I am not a cold or mean person. I believe that children are a gift from God and it's up to parents to bring them up happy, healthy and ALIVE into adulthood, and I have NO TOLERANCE for child abusers of ANY shape, form or fashion!

I agree that she didn't "FORGET" her child in the car, how is that possible knowing that you are going to work. Did she not have arrangments for a child care provider. I think she should face the concequences of her actions, feeling the guilt of knowing that she killed her own daughter is not enough! That poor girl died a slow and painful death- what is wrong with that, EVERYTHING!!!!!

Jenny said:

What happened to CHILD NEGLECT LAWS???? You can leave a 2yr old unattended ANYWHERE for ***8*** hours. Sounds like this meets the "definition...for prosecution." Is the State just stupid????

Hope said:

I live in the area where this occurred. You cannot imagine what this has down to the communities in which we live. The prosecutor in Clermont County is trying to change the laws so that if this kind of thing happens again, there is a law on the books that covers it. It is a sad statement that parents are so caught up in their work that they forget what their most important job is, to be a parent & protect their children. I do feel sympathy for Nesselroad-Slaby as I am sure that her guilt is almost unbearable, however, she even returned to that car during the course of the day and one would think that at some point, she would have thought about her daughter. I think about my kids all day long! Many people here feel that the guilt that she will feel for the rest of her life is punishment enough, I don't. I do believe that punishment should be administered, it seems though, that OH law doesn't have anything that fits this criteria for such a crime. I am sure that laws will change, too bad Cecilia paid for it

Cristi-a Mommy said:

I just have a knot in the pit of my stomach everytime I read or hear about it. That poor child and all she went through before she passed is just unthinkable. Our babies depend on us for everything and safety should be at the top of our list. I feel that the mother should face charges. It is not acceptable to just let her go with nothing. An innocent child died because of her negligence.

Penny Clark said:

There is nothing short of shooting her that is EVER going to be worse than being responsible for the death of her child. I would want to die myself. I don't understand forgetting your child but she will suffer to her dying day.

Jean said:

Come on who can forget their child is in the car. give me a break! As a mother of a now 24 and 20 year old. my kids have always been running through my mind through out every day since they were born. I find it hard to believe that she forgot. I think she is just one of those selfish mother's who only think of themselves and let's face it there are plenty of them out there. My heart goes out to all of the innocent babies that have to suffer at the hands of careless parents.

Amy said:

As I'm writing this the tears are streaming down my face. I can't imagine being that precious little girl and what torture she went through. I also can't imagine what that poor mother is going through. Yes, it was awful and neglectful. We get so busy and wrapped up in our own busy lives, but there is no way that it was intentional. I think the woman's own guilt and agony over what she did is punishable enough. This will be something she will never get over and will probably be seeking life long therapy to help her go on in her own life. I think people need to be realistic and think that this woman, who seems to be a very stand up person in her community would never have done this on purpose.

Gina Rogers said:

I'm sorry but I don't care how "busy" you are, you don't forget a child in a hot car for 8 hours. This isn't forgetfulness, this is careless, reckless child endangerment. I think she must have planned this and believe me if she did, she must be jumping for joy over the airhead judge that let her get away with it, and if it was a jury then the judge should have had the common sense to overturn the verdict. or did the judge "forget" they have that power?

Amy said:

I agree that being "busy" is not an excuse. I probably didn't word that correctly. I think it's ridiculous that people get so "busy" that they forget their child. That is what angers me the most about this case. How could she allow herself to get so wrapped up in her daily events to forget her child? Again, I just don't think putting her away is the right answer here.

Mary S. said:

I agree, we do get very busy, but for 2 years..this "mother" has been going to work,and taking her child somewhere, this could not have been the first time. I do not understand how you could forget your child? I am sorry for the baby who suffered, Jail will not serve any purpose, She will nver forget what she did...until the next child comes along!

Jean H. said:

There is NO excuse for what this woman did. Where is the justice !!!!!!! She should go to jail, for life and be kept in solitary, on bread and water ! So they say she will never forget what she did. I hope not and that is not enough. Murder is murder no mater how it was done. This is murder ......

Fawn said:

Outraged is not even the word for it!!! I am a mother of 2 and I don't care what was going on, I would never forget my babies. How is this even possible? If you are that wrapped up in work and other less important things, then you shouldn't have children. I agree with the first poster. I think she should be left in a hot car to die. See how she likes it!!!

diana said:

Money changed hands. How could she escape the "long" arm of the law on this count? May her conscience met out all the punishment possible for this "lapse" of memory. Was she drugged? Drinking? Really, such a low standard of life quality in Ohio. Too bad for this child and any others.

Laura said:

I'm sorry this woman has to experience the death of her daughter, but for heaven's sake, I can not for the life of me figure out how she could forget her daughter but remember donuts! That's outrageous.

girlsfarm said:

I know of another case in a nearby state that the mother took the kids in reverse order to daycare and left her young child in the car. The infant subsequently died. The facts in this case were very similar except this girl didn't forget her child two times before hand. The prosecutor of the Slaby case prosecuted the girl in this case ... guess what she got ... jail time. Single mother with three children vs. Astitute mother with one child ... Don White get a new job; Scott Croswell - Clermont commissioner and Slaby's attorney - decide which job is more important.

Gloria said:

I can't believe that woman is getting off scott free!!!!!!!! She killed another human!! I have forgotten alot of things in my life-but never, NEVER!! did i ever forget my child. That woman should be punished like any other murderer--for that is what she is!!!

alexa said:

You always talk about parents who have responsability over the children but when the children grow up, no law obliges them to take care of the parents.And so, it will appear abuses, because the young parents see this as one way contract in which they only have to give, without receiving anything, and so, it's left all decisions at the individual level,in which a child becomes only a "problem "that has to be solved or taken care of, and not a joy , because the future of receiving back anything from this selfish care is uncertain. Personally,in this case,I believe she should have faced at least 6 months in prison with suspension, for negligence.

Betty said:

I have no sympathy for the mother. She doesn't even deserve to own the title of "mother"! I have three kids, am recently divorced, go to school and work full time. I am sleep deprived and over worked of my own free will and let me assure everyone that a "Mother" does not forget her children. Not to mention, were not talking about a newborn infant that doesn't make much noise. I know my kids at two would have never sat still and silent for 8 hours? Where are the passers by that saw her in there and chose not to call the authorities because it was not their business. I have called the police on 3 people on separate occasions that leave their kids unattended in cars. What is wrong with people? I have no mercy on those who CHOOSE to make everything else in their lives more important than the safety of their children. Society in general needs to get their priorities straight.

Donna S. said:

I am horified that a mother who is also a school administrator would do something like this to her child and get away with it. No excuse in this world warrants the tragic loss of this child. There is definitelty something wrong with this woman and our justice system has failed us once again. She needs to be prosectued and pay for what she has done. She could not possibly be putting the best interest of her child, or any other children, first and foremost. She should be removed from her job as an administrator and spend the rest of her life in a hot cell without food and water!!

Valerie said:

6 boys lives lie in the balance between life imprisonment for a fight in a schoolyard and this lady kills her daughter with no punishment? Justice? I am a mother of 3 children and never in 27 years of working could I not imagine how they are, what they're doing? "Society" wants us to believe that she went to work for 8 hours and did not once think about this child being in a closed up, hot vehicle? What about lunch for a child? That is total CRAP! If she has remorse, it is because she got caught! I agree...she has done this before. What I see happening here is a "complacency" for violence against children and it breaks my heart because they can't stand up and speak out for themselves...they rely on Mom and Dad to do it for them, and they're the ones killing them! Another issue to consider is how the friends of this little girl are reacting to her being gone, forever..very traumatic, and killed at her mother's hand?? What happens when they express fear at being taken out in the car for a ride..in a locked carseat?

Dawn said:

How do you not think of your child once during the day? I just don't get that she forgot she was in the car. I think it was intentional. If this woman had been uneducated and unemployed or on public aid I really believe that she would be in jail. I just dont' buy it.

Kathleen said:

I don't understand what kind of woman or man can just literally leave a child alone in a car with the heat index so high, she shouldn't be a mother. To be that careless or forgetful that she would let her child die it's inexcusable, no job is worth losing a child, like a few other people have commented how would she like to be left in the car such such a high index heat, she should be punished let her think about it for a long long time.
I never left my kids in the car regardless where I was or what the weather, they went too or I had someone watch them or didn't go. The children are more important than a job that doesn't care about a employees or set up a day care at the company where employees can take their child when they work.
Posted Sept. 18th 3:14pm

Denise said:

I am sick to my stomach after reading this story. I agree that she deserves to die the same way her little girl did.....baking in a hot car. You don't forget a child for 8 hours and go on with your daily life and not even give that child a second thought. Stories like this make me so sick. Here she is blessed with a beautiful Baby girl and she throws her away. I am not a mom and it is not by choice.....I would give anything to have a baby and be a mom and I know there are many others out there like me too. This woman was given a baby to love and care for and she was "too busy and forgot her for a whole day"......NO WAY.....this makes no sense and these prosecutors should be ashamed of themselves for letting her get away with MURDRER....which is what it is ....plain and simple. This woman was 40 freakin' yrs old and not some kid.....she knew better and a school admin too. You mean to say when she looked at those child's faces that day......it did not remind her of her little girl....COME ON ......get real.

BB said:

She let her daughter die, gross negligence at least. How can leaving a child alone anywhere, let alone a car, let alone a hot car NOT be prosecutable. The world´s gone mad. No sympathy for the woman whatsoever, just her poor little girl.

Kathy Garrett said:

Man.. this just breaks my heart! I also don't understand how one could just "forget" their child. That is crazy!!! Evidently the little girl never got anything to eat or drink for 8 hrs???That is total absurdity. Yes, the mother is going to have to live with the fault of her daughters death but at least she's alive. You know, I know the babe is in a better place and I know that God will avenge her...but should we just turn a blind eye to this conscious case of neglect? Car accidents happen everyday and people get incarcerated for "wrongful death" in these cases.. and the key word here is "ACCIDENT". I'm sorry but, I don't believe the lady accidently left her daughter in the car and then accidently forgot to feed, water, or check on her. Judge not, lest ye be judged. She will get what God sees as fair.. period. We don't know what was going on in her life.. what was on her plate.. but still... How could you just forget your child??? Amazing

Deirdre said:

I was disgusted when I heard no charges would be brought against her, particularly because this wasn't the first time she'd left her child unattended in the car. It is disturbing as another reader pointed out that we value the life of a dog over the life of a child. Where's the justice indeed!

susan said:

i can not imagine how you forget your child. i am constantly checking my kids in the mirror, not to mention talking to them and interacting. how does this happen?!? i am furious that these people do not get then death penalty for it when i think of how these poor babies suffered.

Deirdre said:

I posted already but also wanted to add, while I'm not a parent I have two nephews who I babysit a lot. I have never been in such a huge hurry that I could ever forget one or the other in my rush to accomplish something else. I can't imagine how preoccupied she could've been to leave the child unattended for any length of time and while I'm sure she feels extreme guilt over the loss of her child something could've happened to the child on other occasions where she was left unattended. I think she got off because everyone felt sorry for her but honestly, while I'd like to feel some pity for her predicament I reserve that for the deceased child.

susan said:

I do think what she did was wrong and wonder also how anyone could forget their child was in the car....talk about scatter brain! I could also see how torn up she was about it but think she should do atleast community service. Maybe work with the handicap so she could see how lucky she had been to have had a child like the one she had and now is gone forever.

Shelley said:

I see so many comments that talk of being sick to their stomachs and upset about this. Can you even imagine how this mother feels? As a parent that has lost a child I can't even imagine what she will go threw. My son died 10 years ago and I have learned to live with the pain but it never leaves. There is never a second that it is not with me. There is no way off even coming close to knowing what it is like until it happens to you. There is no punishment we could give her that will equal the pain she will have for the rest off her life. In the end she will "pay" for what has happened more than any of you can ever imagine.

AMB said:

I think that she should definitely face prosecution. This is not the same thing as leaving home and forgetting your cell phone. It makes me sick to think of what that poor baby had to go through dying in that car. I hope that the more parents that are prosecuted for this, the more of a big deal that is made will make parents all over the world more cognizant of what they do. This is a life lost which can never be regained. I am just in tears thinking about it.

SIJ said:

I am a single mother of a 1 year old and solo lawyer that spends nearly everyday in court. I may show up to court a little late but I have never forgotten my son.

He arrives at the sitter each day and if I didn't show up with him I am sure my sitter would have called me on my cell phone.

I don't think it's possible for anyone to forget his or her child. Even when I know he's safe at the sitter, he is never far from my thoughts.

Gloria said:

I feel no sympathy for her. This is not the first time she has left that child in a car for a number of hours. If she could remember to take donuts into her school for all the teachers, then how do you forget your child. she should he in jail. We all have busy lives but that is no excuse. 100% weather should have been a very good reminder NOT to leave the child there. SEND HER TO JAIL.

Space girl said:

You know for a while now the government took away parents rights to correct their kids when they were bad, and what happened? Now they run the parents. As for this women leaving her child in the car for eight hours, so that the baby dies is pure horror, but that she gets away with it, is unforgivable. You see what is happening with this case , again is opening the doors for others, and there are others, that really don't want their kids and they will do the same and get away with it because of this case. All the prosecutors have done, is legalize a mother to commit murder to her baby and by doing it this way, she's won. Because of some stupid idiot prosecutor letting this so called mother murder her child and not suffer any consequences. All people everywhere has to now speak up against this so called legal murder or else, you are just as guilty as that so called woman ( beast) that killed her baby in front of all of us, and no one took up justice for that precious innocent baby. We cannot let them do it again.

Cindy said:

I can't figure out how anyone can drive a car and not have looked back over her shoulder at some point to check traffic - she would have seen her child in the car seat. The back seat is safest for the child unless you have a parent who is not only a bad parent, but a bad driver never looking to the side or back, just straight ahead! There is no excuse for this woman's total disregard for her child's welfare. How the heck does she handle her job as an administrator (I'm a school counselor, so I know administrators need to have some sense!) - she seems unable to think about more than one thing at a time - and that thing is donuts for God's sake! Apparently her ability to set priorities is dysfunctional. I hope her school district lets her go ASAP - I think those students may be in danger.

jbl51 said:

Any way you look at this situation, there is definite neglect and stupidity. How can a parent "forget" their child is in their vehicle? I know when my son was 2, he very seldom stopped talking, so how could this "mother" forget her child. She should be prosecuted to the full extent of the law and then some. Yes, she will have to live with this the rest of her life, but what if that is what she wanted; to be rid of her child. There is no way for anyone to know for sure, but she does not deserve to go unpunished for what she did.

Becky said:

I haven't read most of the comments, and normally, I wouldn't post a comment, but, I feel particularly strong about this one. I am a busy mom, but there is no way in HELL, that I would "forget" about any of my kids, or other's kids that I watch during the day. If we aren't working, and living for our kids, than why did we have them??? What this woman did is nothing short of murder, and thank God she has to live with that fact her whole life, because apparently, we arent't going to punish her for what is at the very least, severe child abuse. I can understand forgetting something the child needs to go to (play's, practice, etc...) but to forget the CHILD? That is unthinkable!

Disgusted said:

I grew up in that area and attended Glen Este Middle School. How can a person who is in a postition to take care of our children, she should be termintated from her positonat the school, if she "FORGOT" about her own child how can she be trusted to remember the students to whom she has been entrusted. Not a role model I would want around my children.

Rochelle said:

I am a 23y.o mother from sydney, australia, and i can say that i dont even leave my little one in the car when i pay for my fuel! for a mother to "forget" her child, the most important thing in your life, is, for lack of a better term, BULL! this women is selfish, and deserves the same punishment. see how she likes being cooked in a locked car, with no air, water or food, and see what thoughts are running through her head then! this poor, defensless little girl died because this woman wanted her to. there is no excuse for what she did, how must the family be feeling? the father?? he had his daughter taken from him from the one person who was suposed to be protecting her! this is downright, MURDER! she should be locked up by herself ina room with no windows, no water and no food. All i can say to her is, you are a low life. i hope to god this woman is never aloud to have another defenceless child that she can abuse!
I am shamed, sad and so angry that she recieved no punishment.

Janet Taylor said:

This is setting a very bad precedent. The woman should face criminal charges.
No ifs or buts. The prosecutor should also have her/his head read and be
evaluated. I know of no existing law that doesn't spell out criminal behavior. I certainly hope the Childrens Aid Society is investigating
her out as well. For shame.

Audrey Stevens said:

You have to say .............if she really is that dippy, her mothering sjills were questionable anyway, and social services should have removed this and any other children from her care...... Yep lock her away she is an imminent danger, to society. Wicked , wicked woman. She knew.

Lisa said:

Selfish self absorbed MONSTER. I say that because this monster did this not ONCE but TWICE! She deserves to not be a mother any more and certainly she should lose her job. Can you imagine her caring for other peoples' children too!? A true Monster freed in Ohio. She looks like a woman who has never been denied anything, fat self absorbed monster driving a Mercedes! Certainly this bitch has never been in pain or denied anything in her life she works like what 6 months a year, and probably gets paid a boatload of money to do that. She is a monster and a pig. I pity anyone who crosses her path.

I agree with many that have posted here that it is almost impossible to believe that anyone could forget their child in a roasting car for 8 hours for any reason unless they have some kind of mental disorder, or use some sort of mind-altering drug. I never recall a time when I even momentarily forgot that my baby or toddler daughter was in the car with me. In fact, it was constantly on my mind, and affected my watchfulness for the better while driving. In short, I think the woman is guilty of criminal negligence and second-degree murder, and should face - at the very least - a one-year prison term, or in-house arrest, and a year or more of community service to pay for her crime. How dare our justice system place more value on a dog than a child? What sort of warped values has the world adopted? In this era where the Bible is scorned, and there is no longer any absolute standard for morality, however, what does anyone expect? Unless some sort of absolute moral code is adopted again, it's only going to get worse.

Lisa said:

It is so sad that in America, we have become so BUSY that having children and holding a job can lead some people to loose their minds. Yes, what this woman did was wrong, unmistakeably. Her punishment will live with her the rest of her life. What that child suffered in those 8 hours til her death is something that her mother will never physically witness, yet I beleive that deep down inside her soul, she will be tortured just the same. Sleepless nights, judgments and criticizim will now be a part of her daily life. As a new mom, I feel it is so sad how we as Americans juggle so much of our 12-18 hour day to survive, let alone keep our heads above water. Our society is obessed with having it all and doing it all. This incident MUST be a reminder to our society to SLOW DOWN and take only as much as you can handle. Learn to comfortably get by without taking on too much or WANTING too much. power, money and status AND family. Balance - and NEVER take the GIFT of a child from God for granted.

jamie said:

I live a very busy life...I juggle a fulltime job and a parttime job that is another 4 nights of the week, 3 kids, involved in their school activities, babysit my niece on my days off or short days, my fulltime job requires about 50 hours a week. I do this daily...and NEVER have I forgotten my kids. NEVER. I don't see how it is done because they are my first priority. I feel for this woman yet I feel even more for the child that suffered. It bothers me that this world thinks it's okay to kill a kid and forgive her for "forgetting" her child. It's not okay. If that is the case, then all those parents who shoot or drown their kids can just leave them in the car and "forget" them and get away with it. If it's an accident...fine, but you still have to pay the consequences.

Linda Smith said:

I have 5 children ages 12 thru 33 and would never have left them in a car or forgotten them. I believe this woman should be prosecuted. Part of the punishment should be for her to be fixed so she can't bear anymore children. Then made to serve time in a prison. Then if paroled she should be made to work in a hospital where they treat children for all types of abuse . If you could ever trust her that far. She should be made to sample some of what her daughter had to go through. Tie her in a seat in the back of a car in 100 degree heat close the door. And come back every 15 minutes and see how she's cooking. But, you know we don't really have to worry because everything goes full circle. She will get hers in the end.

elaine hoffer said:

We had a same story in our town a few years back. The mother was sleep deprived and just forgot she had the baby with her. One thing the authorities said afterwards was always put something in the back seat with your child, your purse, briefcase--something you will need for the day. That way if you are distracted or tired if will get you back on track. These Mothers have to live with this horror for the rest of their lives. This is punishment enough.

Laura said:

This sickens me. How can we change the laws so that people are held accountable for the slow boiling to death of an innocent child left alone, frightened and completely helpless for hours of agony before dying?

Misty said:

I know that when I'm in the car with my daughter, I'm constantly interacting with her, singing, talking, etc. Even if she's sleeping, I'm still conscious of the fact that she's there, even if it's just because I'm trying to be quiet! HOW can you FORGET you're child is in the car? I once heard someone say that no one would ever leave a million dollars cash in their car, even just to run into the store, etc. But some people will leave their children in the car? Aren't they worth more than a million dollars?

Cheryl said:

Kid"s "worth a million dollars"? I DON'T THINK SO !! I can't stand KIDS...!! Period .

Kristen said:

"Kid"s "worth a million dollars"? I DON'T THINK SO !! I can't stand KIDS...!! Period "

Spoken like a woman who has no kids!

Why should you have to place your purse in the backseat to remember to get your child out? Someone should forget this woman in a hot car for 8 hours!

JT said:

She remembered the donuts in her car but forgot her child. This is a good mother?

Brittany said:

I agree with you Kristen. On that fact sheet posted, they did say to put your purse in the backseat so you're reminded that your child is there. Good advice, but it's sooo sad that people are more likely to remember a purse (or donuts) than a child. Ugh. This whole tragedy is just horrible.

Elizabeth said:

Interesting....about a month ago, a mom here in my town left her baby in the car for 5 minutes while she ran into the grocery store....and found herself up on charges. I can't believe this stuff can be tolerated anywhere. I, for one, will be calling 911 anytime I see this going on because it is becoming too commonplace. As for the cop that forgot the dog, I would just like to say that dog is not "just a dog", but a Canine Police Officer, treated just like a 2-legged Police Officer. How sad that a defenseless little girl's life apparently didnt deserve the same protection!

Amy said:

This is to wildpuppy57, I completely agree with you. I haven't any use for child abusers either!!! I'm a member of Kelseyspurpose.org which is a child abuse case where the little girls step father kicked her so hard in the stomach that he killed her! They had also broke her collar bone, both legs and she had several cuts and brusies. Yes the mom and step-dad were convicted But that was after all this stuff happened that the dumb judge said that there wasn't enough evidence to prove that the parents caused it all. AND SENT HER HOME WITH MOMMY!!!! WHY?? Tell me that is justice!!?? This woman should pay not just "feel" guilt for the rest of her "alive" life. She should burn in the hot car too.!!!!

Marilyn said:

Where is the justice for the suffering of this little child? This women is supposed to be a role model to other children in the school system? The judge is wrong and this woman needs to go to jail. This is not the first time she has left her child in a car. A horrendous crime has been committed. I am sure she is justifying her actions for what she did as we speak; because she got away with it. How do you forget your child for 8 hours and be conscious?

Elizabeth said:

Well, now all those psychotic moms we've all read about, the ones who push their car into a lake with the kids secured in the back seat....can actually do their kids in THIS way and just say "oops!!It was an accident, I forgot...". PLEASE!! That's just not acceptable.

Vidya G iyer said:

Good God. i thank god that nothing like this has ever happened in INDIA. i think indian mothers are more responsible towards their children than in US. I think she should be punished for doing so with such an innocent one.

Kattie said:

This EXACT same thing just happened here where I live. A couple went to church Saturday, came home, went in with their two older kids to take a nap at around 2 pm and at 5 pm, realized their 22 month old was still in the car. THREE HOURS they left her there! It's ARKANSAS PEOPLE-- what is wrong with people today?! Here there are lots of families that deserve a child and others like these and the ones here KILL their children with stupidity and neglect! It's horrible and outrageous but everyone is too busy playing the "blame-game" to take responsibility. It's incredulous!

keno said:

Every parent's number one priority is there child's well being. That kind of you'd run in front of a bus to save them thing, I don't think this was an accident, there is probably mental illness at play. All factors aside, a child died due to neglect, she should be punished.

keno said:

To Cheryl, the million dollar comment? What makes you think you're worth anything at all? All people regardless of age are worth more than money! Money is just an invention to do business, never to be compared with human value. How sad that you hate kids, I'm sure if you were around some and had any kind of heart, you'd actually learn something. I pity you and your sad selfish way of existance.

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