Valentine’s Confessions
And the countdown to V-Day begins…
Which means it’s time to ‘fess up. On our new Looking for Lost Loves board, cmangelak asks: “Have you ever Googled an old flame? Looked them up on MySpace? Did you contact them? If so, how did it go? If not, what held you back?”
Some responses: “Yes I have. In fact I tried many times to find the love of my life over the years. 20 years to be exact. I never had any luck in locating him though. But, as fate would have it, he found me instead.”
“Yes. It's horrible to say but I'm almost stalker-like in the way I do it. I did find a current address, and did one of those searches where you can see the area from a ‘bird's eye view’”
“I did a long time ago...about 2 years after the last time I saw him. It is kind of a complicated story.”
“I found my Love after 10 yrs apart. I'm in a relationship that is very unhappy but I am a stay-at-home mom with no money except what he gives me. How could I file for a separation or divorce if I don't have $$$$$$$$? So I am thinking ... well, you could look him up and see if he has moved on or is still thinking of you. In my situation, he had never stopped thinking of me.”
“Yes, I did find my high school sweetheart, after 17 years of separation. It happened this last September… It was almost frightening, the speed of which we rekindled the old flame. Here's the rub...I've been married for 13 years, with 2 children, and he is also married with children. We ended up having a very intense emotional and physical affair.”
And people, it just keeps going.
What about you? Have you ever cyber-stalked a former flame? What happened when you sent him that MySpace friend request (or added him to – gasp – your top 8?!) C’mon…admit it…
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BE WARNED: googling lost loves may result in finding out they've entered the monastery...
not that it happened to me...
sigh.
yep, I've done it, and that's how I found MySpace, lol.... When I sent him the friend request, he was pleasantly surprised and we started chatting. He's on my friends list and so is my hubby, and since it's all JUST friendship, hubby's not upset by it at all. After all, he'd been on MySpace before me and had already added his highschool girlfriend to his list, lol.
Totally. I found a fake story written by him (complete w/ a photo) about being born again as a teen (he was a druggy..I was there! He got kicked out of church camp where the supposed rebirth happened!) and now living a life where he testifies about God to girls in bars to straighten them out. He's in prison for making meth. The only bars he sees are the ones on his cell.
yeah i did it ... found out he had left his wife because he loved me and if i had only stayed in town another two days we would've been together... he had been devastated when i up and left town saying i couldn't wait on him anymore that it hurt too much to love someone who wasn't totally free... we talked a lot about the past and the present... we were both married at the time we were chattin it up and it was good to get everything out in the open.. basically i was young and impatient and ruined everything... now i question my marriage more and wonder if i'd be happier with him than with my husband, and stuff like that. he's divorced since and i'm still married an we still talk and even wonder what it would be like if i was with him but i wonder if i want him cuz the grass looks greener or if i really want him for him... so now i'm confused, but still, it was good to know he was doin ok
Guilty as charged. I had never gotten over the one man I truly felt I was made for. Turns out, he feels the same way. Too bad he lives states away and neither of us are in a position to move. But it's nice to know that while I was thinking of him for 7 years, he was thinking of me.
Your post inspired me to Google an old flame. I searched for far too long and found nothing. Sure would like to know what happened to him.
I don't have to google. I've kept in touch with the only past love I have the least little care about. The others I hope are dead. If I found them I might have to kill them so ...
not going to google.
When I googled all I could find from a couple of old flames were their scholarly papers lol. Another lives on the other side of the world, and I worry about him a bit because there's been a lot of violence where he lives. Another one I wish the earth would swallow him up. He's the reason why I am not on any social networking sites. It was difficult enough getting rid of him the first time, I don't want to tempt him. A couple of old flames I don't need to google since we're still friends, and I am good friends with their significant others. We even go on vacation together!
I found him on Myspace and then almost immediately I had to cut contact with him because all he could talk about was "what if." What if we had stayed together? What if I hadn't gotten married? All he wanted to do was remember high school and I didn't want to live in the past. I was just hoping that we could be friends and I think he wanted more than that.
Well, believe it or not, I don't have any ex's because I married my first love. :) I will admit, however, that I have googled DH's ex. *blush* Not sure why I bothered since my MIL feels the need to keep us frequently updated on her.
I already know exactly where 2 of my exes are, and googled a 3rd to find out that he's still in the state and working, lol, but that's as far as it'll go.
My 1st love is also my daughter's father. We see each other weekly because of her but aren't together. He broke my trust far too many times to forgive him, at least right now. But supposedly he's changing. I did give him a V-day card from our daughter with her handprint on it. He loved it.
I shudder when I accidentally remember my exes. I hope to never see or hear from any of them again. I'm happily married to my perfect guy. There's a reason I didn't end up with any of the others. Ick.
i found my first love after 20+ years - old feelings came back like we never expected. We've been in contact for a few months now - we're both married and not really sure where this is headed. We both feel guilt but we also feel that we were together before either one of us knew our spouses so we're like each others "little secret" that no one knows nor has heard of which is very exciting. I believe we were meant to be together but fate didn't allow that to happen until now. A rekindled love is so different that other affairs - there is a shared history and such deep feelings I can't even express. When I saw him again time just disappeared and it was like we were never apart. I don't know where this will go but I'm staying for the duration.