Cheat Sheet
Does going to a strip club count as cheating? Okay, even if he’s only “there to look,” or swears he just thinks it’s funny, or is simply doing it to go along with the guys… (well, if the guys jumped off the Brooklyn Bridge, etc!) if there’s something about him going that makes you feel skeevy, something about the whole sitch that just feels wrong, isn’t that a kind of cheating?
When tink_dharma’s fiancé went to an all-nude (?!) strip club recently... "He got a lap dance from a woman there…I feel so down, I cannot even explain it. He even touched her. I guess I should be glad that he came clean with me, but I feel like he cheated. Isn't that cheating though?”
sdino11234 responds, “I wouldn't say he cheated, just used very poor judgment.” (Need I mention that sdino11234 is a guy?)
intuition_girl0727 says, “Plain and simple he lied before he went and got a lap dance anyway and even groped her!”
twoscoops76 agrees. “Not only did he cheat physically by touching this woman, he is also cheating in his mind and heart, which is just as bad.”
But you know what? I really think ohiob2b's statement takes the cake. "Prior to my H cheating [with a stripper], I was very open to the idea of going to strip clubs with him.”
Youch.
Is getting a lap dance cheating? Is stripping always bad? Would you ever go to a strip club? Are you reading this from a strip club at this very moment? Join the conversation.
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While it may not count as "cheating" it's still so not cool. :) Great blog, btw.
That is a thing I SERIOUSLY do not get, why women feel so threatened when their guy go to strip club? Or watch porn, or visit porn sites?
MY DH did all the above at a point or another and I seriouls don't mind, he is the one he come home to at the end of the day. I would be hurt if he lied to me...but hey I would scold him for lying not for having a guy's night out.
Those lap dancer are professionals and they will keep anything strictly business why be jealous? And if the idea that a lapdancer touched him...why not starting being jelous if he have a chat with a female office colleague? After all the fact they craked a joke and touched his arm could be considered cheating too if I follow the reasonment that a watching a lap dancer is Cheating...GIrls be a bit more secure about yourself!
Thanks, Ang! And Cyn, you make a good point, though I think the concern was that the woman in question found out that her fiance did in fact touch the dancer, and reported back to her that he was turned on by it.
I mean, sounds like the biggest problem here is that this guy is kind of a jerk. But then again, we only have one side of the story!
I am having this problem with my boyfriend right now! He paid to get touched in a sexual way. He blames it on peer pressure and curiousity, how old is too old count peer pressure as a reason for acting in a particular way? What's even worse is the fact that he complains about taking me out for dinner etc and then goes to have some naked woman touch him. We are currently having problems in the sex department (I apparently don't give it up enough) and I told him I had a problem with him going to the strip club but let it go because it was a friends birthday. I feel like my wishes were completly ignored and he betrayed my trust.